When I first met my ex, I knew that I had met my soulmate. Things went well for a while but then suddenly, everything turned upside down. He ended up pulling away and the harder I tried to keep the relationship going, the more he pulled away and lost interest. One day he told me to ‘Just let it go, it’s over’.

I was heartbroken.

I felt lost, confused, angry and really sad. I also had no clue how I was going to move forward in my life without him. I had pictured us together and now that picture didn’t exist. I felt like hiding under my covers every day because I missed him so much. I felt like this for a long time. About 4 years went by and I still thought of him every day. I knew I had to stop because I was tired of making myself crazy looking at his social media profiles and feeling loopy each time I saw a different girl making a comment or seeing him going out to various places.

I read various Secret Stories and blogs and books on how to get an ex back and I finally came to the conclusion that I just had to ‘let go’. I needed to for my own sanity and happiness. So I did the following:

1. I decided to hand over control to the Universe. I spoke to the Universe and said that I trusted it to know what my heart desired and that it would take care of me. I said that I had 100% faith and would no longer doubt or worry about my ex. Once I gave full control to the Universe, I instantly felt better.

2. I then forgave my ex for everything. Each time I thought of him, I would say “I love you too, ______”. I sent him loving thoughts each time I said this.

3. I started to imagine our life together. Us laughing, him looking at me lovingly, telling me he loved me and both of us sharing an amazing love and relationship. Each time I thought of that, I would smile and feel happy.

4. I felt relaxed, confident and certain. Certain that he would return and it felt amazing. I even stopped thinking about him all the time. I just ‘let it go’ and I felt at peace for the first time in a long time.

Then one day, when I honestly hadn’t even thought of him, I received a random message from him!!??! I’m not kidding. I first thought ‘What the…?’ but then felt OK about it because it was like I expected it, if that makes sense. He was asking how I was and that he had been thinking of me and wondered how I was. By this stage, it had been almost 4 years since we last spoke. We messaged back and forth and then agreed to meet up.

When we saw each other, it was like no time had passed. I felt good and confident and he saw the difference. He said that I looked beautiful and that I looked a bit different, in a good way, he couldn’t put his finger on it. I honestly think I was more calm, confident and much less insecure.

We have started dating again and he has said that he wants to make up for the past and regrets how he treated me. He has been amazing and so many things that I had imagined, have happened. Things he says and things we do, etc., it feels like I’m stuck in a movie I have already seen, so weird. I’m really happy and it’s like a new and improved version of our relationship.

To anyone wanting to get an ex back, I strongly advising following my steps. Keeping the faith and letting go IS the key. I tried everything else and nothing worked or even made things worse. What have you got to lose? More than that, think of what you have to gain!!