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Relationship Restored
Submitted by: Victoria L.
New York, NYA young, successful woman in love, who has changed her life with positivity.
I have known of The Secret for years, but had not truly understood all of it’s principles until recently. I still watch it, and listen to The Power and read The Magic and The Daily Teachings every day to keep myself on track.
During a really rough patch in my life, I returned to The Secret and The Power, and magically manifested the most wonderful man into my life. I had made a list in my journal of the things I hoped to manifest in a relationship. I wanted someone similar to me in education level as I had never had that in the past, someone ambitious, and passionate about helping others. I wanted him to be tall, loving, compassionate and to be expressive and artistic.
But the man that came into my life just a few weeks after making the list, was so much more than I could have hoped for. He was all the things I wanted and more. We attended the same university, he was getting his Master’s degree, while I was getting my Doctorate. We were both pursuing careers in social justice and both very passionate. We met about a week after my birthday. I think I was able to manifest our relationship because I was feeling so good around that time. I was feeling pure love and gratitude for everything and everyone in my life.
We were at a party, and I felt so much love and attraction to him from the moment I first looked into his eyes. We danced and at the end of the night he asked for my number. We went on our first date in the library at his school. The next day he asked me to lunch. That same night he asked that we go for a walk, and the next day, he asked me to dinner and a movie. Then he asked me to go to the city where he was from with him while he completed a project for school. It kept on this way, each day more exciting and thrilling than the one before.
He asked me to be his girlfriend within a week. A week after that, he told me he loved me. I was head over heels! Yet, after awhile, some part of me started to think this is too good to be true.
Little by little, I stopped practicing gratitude and reading and listening to The Secret, The Power and The Magic. I became wrapped up in old ways, and with the past experiences of men who had hurt me throughout my life. I became suspicious and insecure, angry and ungrateful. I started to criticize him for his flaws, and to be easily irritated because of my own stress with school and internships and our living situation with roommates. The negativity wasn’t always towards him, but in my life in general, I had lost my positivity.
It was no surprise that this manifested itself into our relationship. We began fighting often, and he told me he wanted to break up. I felt hopeless and depressed. But after I got a grip on my emotions, I came to this website and read the many inspiring and uplifting stories to regain my faith and undo what had happened through a lack of love and gratitude.
I made lists everyday of what I love about him, what I love about myself, how I wanted our relationship to be. I talked to friends often when they needed advice, and tried to spread love to everyone around me. I practiced gratitude every morning and at every spare moment.
There were ups and downs between us, as we were living together, and he would do things like leave without letting me know where he was going, barely speak to me, sleep on the couch, tell me he didn’t love me, etc.
I reminded myself that this world, this current physical reality, is just the manifestation of what we have thought, and tried not to get angry. I kept telling myself that the world of the unseen, the spiritual world is more real than this physical world when I felt like giving up. I knew I had to let go, in the sense that I couldn’t try to think of ways to make us get back together. That was the hardest part.
I am happy to say that we got back together in such a beautiful way! He called me one night when we were in different cities because we were on break from school, and told me he was sorry for his mistakes, and he forgave me for my mistakes too. He posted tons and tons of pictures of us online, and wrote me sweet, loving messages the way he had always done. It was almost unreal! Things had completely turned around.
A few months after this, he proposed to me at my graduation, in front of my family and friends. We moved to a new city, and are enjoying successful lives with much more good in store.
We still have ups and downs, but now I know, if I can remember to love and live in gratitude, that love will do anything for me!
I hope this story gives you hope that all this and more will happen for you too, because I know the stories on this website always do that for me.