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Finding The One By Knowing What You Want.
Submitted by: Angel
Dubai33 year old girl realizing life is everything you want it to be.
I would like to thank everyone out there for sharing their stories, it is truly inspirational. I would like to thank Rhonda for bring The Secret to us all, and I would like to share The Magic Dust to everyone sharing and believing.
Coming from an Asian background you always grow up thinking you have to find a certain type of guy, successful, tall, same religion, same caste someone that is financially able to take care of you etc., etc. But those type of guys are not necessarily the ones that make you happy. I was focusing on all the wrong things, but I did meet someone who was the same religion and same nationality, just not the same caste. He was a friend and then my boyfriend, but sadly he passed away, and I for I years I thought I would not find love and something perfect again.
And guess what? I didn’t because that’s what I believed.
At that time I was not particular to find the same caste or the same nationality or religion. I wanted to break from the norm and find just an amazing love story, but my beliefs were different and my actions were different. In turn I never had an idea of what I wanted.
I came across The Secret while I was in one of those relationships, and I started knowing, asking and believing this is how I wanted my guy to be. However it was a painful break up with that guy. My fears got the better of me, but I remembered when I visualized how my relationship should be, how in love I felt and how happy that made me for hours on end. I wrote down silly details like loves holding my hand, will take my hand and kiss it, will give me small surprise gifts now and again, will give me a bite of his food.
After ending that painful break up I met a guy, but neither he nor I was in a place to have a long term relationship. We just liked each other and just wanted to have fun. We had a big group of friends that I recently met and I met him through friends in that group. Everyone thought of us as a temporary relationship as I was 7 years older than the guy, different religions, different states, different backgrounds, different upbringing, different status and different stages of our career. Me being higher and being older, but he made me smile and in the beginning he made me heal all my old wounds and made me realize how abusive my ex was.
Day by day I was filled with love, which confused me because I thought that this cannot be, he does not fit the norm.
We broke up and that’s when I turned to The Secret again. I made a list of exactly what I wanted. I then realized that age does not matter to me but maturity was what I listed. Career is not what I listed, but ambition was.
And that guy that I did not think fit my society beliefs, today, by knowing exactly truly what I want in a man, is the guy that holds my hand and randomly kisses it. Out of the blue picks wild flowers and gives me first bite of any meal we are having and more often than not feeds me, takes care of me and today we are working towards getting married.
We have been together over two years and working on his mom coming around to the idea that society beliefs don’t make a happy couple, but two people that believe and work towards loving each other do.